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From the very first song I wrote at the age of 11, the theme of dying has been with me.

I am not scared of death. It really is a second birth. Do you believe in life after birth? That is the question.

The end of this life, which is inevitable, creates a beautiful framework and helps us focus on what is really important: our relationships.

This is a “passing of the mantle” song. It’s written to my children – “you can take whatever you need”.

Nothing is more beautiful and also more painful than our relationships. It is the fabric that weaves us together and gives life meaning, that sets us up for what is to come. In this world we breath air. In the next world we breathe love. And you are what you love. This song is a celebration of this fact.

The waltzy 6/8 rythmic feel of the song is meant to provoke a sense of the “big wheel” spinning, the ongoing fact of life, somthingh that ends for all of us and yet keeps on going. We have a measured time here and what we fill this time with matters.

“Make wise choices. Choose love.”

That is my message to my kids, because “you are what you love”.

Johan Flew us out to Los Angeles where we got to work with a crew fresh off of the Avenger movie. The story has continued on and we are now in the next world which of course involves flying.

This was a new and really cool experience, but I tell you: it was hard on the neck! After a minute or so we were brought down to rest, then brought back up again. Over and over, all three of us. Filiming is first and foremost waiting around.

In the opening scene of this video we see my character lie infront of the very church he tried to run away from. He walks inside only to realize he is no longer a part of this world.

In the next scenes we see little pieces from his earthly life flitter about the character now floating himself, floating among his memories, images out of reach, no longer there other than visions of the past. “You are what you love”.

I really think it is powerful how Johan merges the three characters at the end, and how my character turns to the camera. I get a “how about you” sense from it. What will be your choices? Do you know that “you are what you love”?

And so it concludes this journey. The darkness, hopes, loves and losses all entwined and with us forever.

At the end I hope people have a sense of hope, a sense that nothing is in vain, nothing really goes away, and that our lives are valuable, have deep meaning, and will move on after this earthly life.  We go on and continue to live on making our selves and our lives better.

I truly belive this!

The darker tones speaks to the seriousness I feel about this life, how serious every step and choice is. How magical it is. How wonderful it is to be aalive!

I hope you have/ will enjoy this video series. I would love to hear your thoughts, so comment under the video or send me a message on Facebook, or Twitter or Instagram.

All of these four videos are from my previous album “Pains and Pleasures of Intimacy”.

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 Talk soon, 

Gear Talk Gibson J-45

GEAR TALK – Gibson J-45

What does Elvis Presley, John Lennon, Bob Dylan, Jeff Tweedy, Elvis Costello, Jeff Bridges, New Jersey’s own Bruce Springsteen and yours truly all have in common? The answers is simple and self evident: Gibson J-45

It is not by accident. It is generally regarded as the most popular acoustic guitar Gibson has to offer, if not the most popular of all acoustic guitars. This model saw daylight in 1942, and has largely stayed intact since then. The J-45 has a rounded, “baseball bat” style neck, with sported modest dot-shaped mother of pearl fretboard position markers.

The J-45 was constructed of solid spruce wood for the top, while solid mahogany was used for the back and sides. Apart from a small batch of natural-finish J-45s produced in 1942, the model was offered only in the sunburst finish.

The J-45 is absolutely my go-to-acoustic guitar and I love it for the rich bass and the durability throughout a gig. The neck is “big” or wide and gives you resistance, and it responds great to a little harder strumming as well as fine fingerpicking. It truly deserves the label “workhorse”. It is extremely reliable and plays great summers as well and winters. I have taken this guitar half around the world already.Once tuned I very seldom have to tune it again during a show.

How it got started


THE STORY OF THE GIBSON is interesting!

Imagine launching a guitar in 1942. Us had just joined WWII and

parts were hard to come by because of government imposed rations

 on the commercial use of timber and metal. Designers had to use up

to four pieces of spruce for the J-45’s top. This lead to Gibson

choosing the sunburst finish simply because a sunburst finish would

better disguise any join in the timbers 


Why did they give it the name 45? Original idea was to ask $45 for it.

In other words: a simple, cheaper reliable guitar.

J-45 sales remained strong after the war. In the ’50s it easily outsold every other flat-top. In the ’60s it was surpassed only by the even lower-priced all-mahogany LG-0. In the ’70s and up until to day it is one of Gibson’s best selling guitars

Shameless Promotion

Here is a little thing I recorded on my Gibson J-45. It is also an ode to a hero of mine: Chris Cornell. AND it happens to be a song that me and my wife consider as “our song”. Enjoy!

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Gear talk Epiphone Riviera

GEAR TALK – Epiphone Riviera CH

Boy, I love this guitar!


Epiphone Riviera CH whole body 1200


And so might you. Why, you might ask… Well, first of all, just look at it. It looks stunning. And as we all know: looks are everything! But there are a few more things I’d like to point out.


This is a semi-acoustic, semi-hollow bodied guitar shaped similarly to a Gibson ES-335. But it is a little lighter than it’s big brother. It is surprisingly light in fact, which means I can play it for hours without my shoulder falling off.


Epiphone Riviera CH whole body tilted 1200


The neck of the Epiphone is a set mahogany neck and has rosewood fingerboard with parallelogram inlays. Also, it is a little wider than other guitars I have played (24.75″ scale 1.68″ nut width). This makes the grip feels smoother.


If you are used to acoustic guitars or your hands are a little bigger, and if you like to move between the acoustic and the electric experience, you will love this guitar as much as I do! Well, maybe not as much, but….:)


Epiphone Riviera CH close up %22neck%22 1200


Riviera was originally produced in the USA from 1962 until 1969. Currently it is being produced in Asia and is a budget alternative to Gibson guitars. These days (Feb 2016) you can get a Riviera Custom P 93 for about $ 500. So in other words, a lot of guitar for relatively little money.


Now, let’s dive a little deeper. We agree that it looks great, feels great, both to hold and to play.
What does it sound like? Let’s talk about pick ups.


Mini Humbucker Pickups


Pick Ups
The Riviera was originally released with Mini-Humbucker pickups.

I have for myself concluded that my Riviera was part of a re – issue series launched in 1994. Originally released with Humbucker Pickups. I did, as you can tell from the picture, change that to Seymour Duncan pickups. It’s, as with a lot of things in the music industry, an old debate on what is best: Single Coil or Humbucker. Single Coil being brighter and snappier, Humbucker being louder and fatter. Very simply put. I think I found a middle ground to be honest: Seymour Duncan Hot Rodded Humbucker Set. That is what you see here.

Epiphone Riviera CH close up Seymour Duncan 1200


They have a low output (no hum – these pickups are very quiet), they are bright and articulate, have a full tone, but doesn’t get muddy. You can play any style: jazz, pop, rock even blues and hard rock. If you like to play many different styles, maybe even within the same set, I highly recommend these pickups.


How it got started

THE STORY OF EPIPHONE is interesting! It started out in 1873 in İzmir, Turkey by Greek founder Baluntang Ryan. The Stathopoulo family continued making his instruments and moved to Manhattan in the early 1920’s. Epaminondas (Epi) Stathopoulo took over the family business, and produced the first guitar in 1928 (Greek phon-, “sound”/”voice”<). Epiphone attracted the best musicians to its Manhattan showroom and soon became Gibson’s main rival in the archtop market. However, due to a strike the company moved from New York to Philadelphia in 1951. At the urging of the legendary Les Paul Epiphone was acquired by Gibson in 1957. Gibson is currently based in Nashville, Tennessee, but From the 1980s, Epiphones were manufactured mainly in Korea and Japan by contractors. In 2002, Gibson opened a factory in Qingdao, China and with few exceptions, Epiphones are now built only in the Qingdao factory.

Epi Stathopoulo

Epaminondas (Epi) Stathopoulo


Broken neck
It was a typical Saturday night. We had finished our final set and a few people were hanging out after the party (back in Norway they call this “nach spiel” (German: night play)). Well, lo and behold: a couple swayed through the room, stumbled into the monitors, landed on my guitar and broke the neck of my little beauty. Devastation! I bet many of you know that feeling…


Epiphone Riviera CH close up back %22broken neck%22 1200


But I got the guitar fixed by having a knowledgeable friend put in two wooden pieces to bridge the gap and then glue the neck and body together. Result: It plays better now than before it broke! It is more in tune and more stable. I don’t even have to re-tune it during a show, which is quite amazing. Morale of the story: a situation that looks dire can actually be turned around and become something better. Never ever give up!


Famous players

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John Lennon is arguably the most famous Epiphone Guitar player. One reason being of course that he is just the most famous anything inside the music industry. But there are many great players that have discovered the beauty of this “working class hero” guitar. Here are a few. You know them..

Shameless promotion
It is time to show you the Epiphone Riviera in use. This performance took place at The Grand Ballroom, Manhattan NY in 2011.The idea behind doing Hallelujah by Leonard Cohen was of course to do the regular verses. Then this high note bubbled up, and I just went for it and with the audiences reaction I forgot the words to the friggin’ 4th verse. Now I only sing these three verses whenever I perform it.


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How to survive as a dad in the music indusrty

How to survive as a dad in the Music Industry

So many of my friends and acquaintances in the music industry will confirm the challenging position of being a parent and a full time artist at the same time.


IMG_1741They seem like an oxymoron. Fatherhood and an artist career. I can contribute to the notion. It wasn’t until I lost my first marriage and contact with my children that my musical career took off. Why that was the case can be manyfold. More time on my hands, less distractions, the opportunity to take up any incoming possibility at will, any tome of the day and week, was a great contributions to my success. Although be it smaller in the larger picture of things.


And I say that because 20 years later one can ask the question: “was it worth it”.

The simple  answer would be no. Or yes.


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No because I will admit that I seriously lost all contact with them and as we speak (I write and you read) I DO NOT have any contact with my two older children, now 20 and 18. That is one of the big pains in my life at this present moment.


Yes, because I simply would not be where I am today without that experience.


It is therefore not a simple matter of yes vs no. It is complex. And we want it all, don’t we? We want relationship(s), we want that career. So here we are, how do we make it all work.


In this blog I will explore that topic from all sides I can think of.